This morning, like every morning for approximately 92 of the past 100 mornings, I got the oatmeal out of the cupboard, but then I paused. Most mornings I put peanut butter and jam on my oatmeal and relish in its sweet and salty glory, but a few days ago I decided not to buy more peanut butter when I was at the grocery store. This was unusual, as I usually go through one jar in 3-6 days, but a Dr. Oz article I read recently insinuated that this was a problem. I’d long suspected this but I took the professional opinion as a particular sign. I, Eva Derby, have a peanut butter problem.
And this morning I didn’t want to eat almonds.
I poked around on the bottom shelf of the fridge (This is my shelf- the only shelf without mold. But actually, on shelf two there’s a jar of nacho cheese that expired two months ago, and leftovers shrivelled like shrunken heads or turned fuzzy green within their tupperware.) I pulled out an unopened pack of soy chorizo. My dad used to cook with the stuff sometimes. He’d whip it up in the same fry pan as eggs, sharp cheese, fresh carrots or other vegetables, and a clever concoction of spices. I decided I didn’t want to use a pan, my only pan was boiling water for my instant coffee right then anyways, so I cooked up cauliflower, broccoli, and chorizo in a bowl in the microwave, then dumped half a can of refried beans on top, and added some slices of soy cheese and poblano salsa for good measure.
This was pretty tasty, thank goodness for spice, but it made me imagine the dish that Dad would have more masterfully made, which I don’t think I’ve had since early high school- sometime between my parents’ getting a divorce and Dad’s moving in with his first girlfriend- the prim lady.
These days Dad’s living with his second girlfriend, a much less prim and thin character than the first, a woman with whom I pretty thoroughly burned the bridge of potential friendship during the summer after college. Thus, I haven’t spent the night in the same house as my dad in over two years. It hit me while I was munching my cold-in-the-middle soy chorizo this morning that I might never eat one of Dad’s breakfasts again. I think I’m writing this to try to come to terms with that.
On the other hand, he’s not dead, so there’s hope. One or the other of us might yet decide to reach out in a big way. Granted, this would hurt my mom, who spent much of the evening crying the one night I went out to dinner with Dad over this past Christmas break. She asked me why I didn’t resent him more (over financial stuff mostly), I told her I do but that I didn’t want to, she cried some more, and it was all dead uncomfortable.
I would say ‘we’ll see,’ but that sounds too passive, though I guess maybe not too passive from an honest perspective.
Good luck,
Eva